“Gagey, just got down on one knee and asked me to marry him,” she enthusiastically announced to me and Gage’s mom who was standing with me.
“Really?!!?? What did you say?” we both asked in unison.
“I said yes,” she replied jumping up and down as she gazed at her new ring.
The whole scenario was precious, indeed.
But what we thought was a brief role-play between two kindergarteners has had more staying-power than any of us first anticipated. Gage’s “proposal” to Jessie occurred several months ago, but it has carried all the seriousness five-year-olds can grasp. Jessie has never once removed her ring, they both speak of their impending marriage “when they are adults,” they frequently make gifts and write notes to each other, while also wanting to commit their time and energy to their relationship. It is truly hilarious and touching all at once!
Gage is a smart, respectful and sensitive little guy—our neighbor and son of dear friends. He was there holding Jessie’s hand on the first day of school, they eat their snack together at kindergarten each day, and regularly play with one another in our neighborhood. In fact, it would be hard not to have a five-year-old crush on such a sweet and cute little guy. But a few weeks ago, I realized their engagement carried a totally different significance for Jess.
She and her friend Emma were in the backseat of my car conversing. They began chatting about the engagement when Jessie made a suggestion, “Emma, you could marry one of your brothers.”
“I don’t want to marry any of my brothers!” Emma emphatically replied.
“Well, I would marry my brother, but he isn’t here. Gage is like a brother to me. That’s why I want to marry him.” In that moment, I realized Gage was meeting a special need in her young, grieving heart.
So, how do you respond when your five-year-old daughter declares that she’s engaged?
Well, I rejoice that God has seen fit to provide her a friend that can fill some of the void in missing her brother. I’m a fan of her “Gage-ment!”